LEARN TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

I can’t really say if it is in the nature of man to always blame someone for his or her misfortunes.  We always have someone to blame. Nobody wants to be held responsible. In Genesis 3:12; “And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat”. That was Adam blaming Eve for making him eat the fruit they were asked not to eat, even though he was given the instruction not to eat it. So the game of blaming people has always been there. But the question is, is it the right thing to do?

In Nigeria, the people blame the government for the level of corruption and infrastructural decay while the government also try to blame the people they are leading too (Peter Obi of Anambara State did that last week, I read it on papers).

Even in the families, in the churches, societies in general, everyone is blaming each other for one thing or the other. Nobody wants to be blamed. But the truth is that everyone has a share of the blame, whether you believe it or not. People are always blaming their enemies for their misfortunes and hard times. There is always someone in the village responsible for the hard times they pass through.

In Nigeria here, student who fails exam will always say “The Lecture failed me” or “the lecturer gave me F”, but if a student passes, it will now be “I made A in that course”. Nobody wants to be associated with failure, even when you are the one involved. There is always a way to exonerate yourself.

But is this the right way to make a head way in life? The answer is NO. No man can make it by trying to take the blames off yourself. Sometimes, we even have to give flimsy excuses why we have failed. If it is students, you say your lecturer hates you. In your office, you say your boss hates you, that is why you have not been promoted, and so on and so forth.

King Saul gave such excuse when he disobeyed God. He was punished because of it. Your excuse will not change anything in the positive angle, instead it will make you more relaxed and not working towards correcting the mistake you have made before.

I want to encourage us to always take responsibility of the things that happen in our life. It will help us look inwards and find out why we have failed, why the problem is there, why we pass through these kinds of things and then we start planning on avoiding such things to occur again. If you believe you Lecturer gave you an “F”, you will never try to find out why you failed and how to avoid the “F” next time. If you believe you Boss hates you that is why you have not been promoted, it will even make you to be moving around in self pity. Look in wards. Why does your boss hate you? What is your attitude in office that is even if he/she hates you? Improve on your working skills, work on yourself and see if things won’t change.

Take responsibility of your life and what comes out of it and you start praying the right prayers that God will always answer. Stop blaming others now. Learn to take responsibility. Learn to say; “I am responsible for this”.